People, places, things - these all come into your life for a reason. Some of these are forever. Some you think will be forever and they end up just being seasonal. Both scenarios are totally okay.
I've been doing a lot of soul searching this year. Who do I want to surround myself with? Do I care to put up with people who aren't on the same page, just because we've been friends? Do I keep making excuses for people who don't support me like they used to?
I want to surround myself with women who have drive; women who have survived the fire. Women who love loud, and share their experience and insecurities and don't apologize for being bigger than this box that society wants us to stay in. Those are my kind of people.
I used to get mad when my friends changed. Because it put a strain where there wasn't one before. And I would be mad when I brought it up, and things continued to be strained because they didn't want to put the effort in to fixing things. And then I realized that I have changed too. I don't put up with people who don't care enough. I have high standards and a very low bullshit tolerance when it comes to the people in my life.
I've been incredibly lucky to have been surrounded by the badass, from the fire, driven women the past couple of years. IDWTBAT was that for me. It brought women into my life who I NEVER would have found otherwise. Women who I can talk to about my deepest and darkest, who are there for me through the incredible times and the absolute shit times. But the group got way too big to manage, and became more work than it was worth for me. It's still a message I firmly believe in, but this is an example of a seasonal thing, something that came in and taught me a lot about myself (and humanity in general) but not something meant to stick around forever. So I've bowed out, and intend to use IG and this blog to empower women just as I was before - more words, fewer videos, and no rules or filters.
Consider what you surround yourself with. Is it draining you more than it's giving you? If so, it may be time to examine if it's worth keeping. And if it's not? That's okay. That is TOTALLY okay.
Helen Foster aka HeleFab comin' atcha!